Tip Feb 6, 04:25 PM

The Borrowed Ritual: Let Characters Inherit Habits From People They've Lost

This technique works on multiple psychological levels. First, it demonstrates how we absorb the people we love (or resent) into our bodies without permission. Second, it creates dramatic irony when readers know the ritual's origin but other characters don't. Third, it allows you to write about death, abandonment, or estrangement without ever using those words.

The borrowed ritual becomes especially powerful when characters consciously hate what they're doing but cannot stop. A son who resented his alcoholic father's habit of checking every lock twice might find himself doing the same thing every night, frustrated and ashamed. This internal tension—the body betraying the mind's resistance—creates rich characterization without a single line of backstory.

Consider varying the emotional register: borrowed rituals can express love, resentment, grief, or complicated mixtures. They can be comforting (a mother's lullaby hummed unconsciously) or disturbing (an abuse survivor flinching at raised voices). The ritual itself carries neutral information; context and reaction provide the emotional charge.

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